With kids or not with kids, that is the question.

Don’t we all just love summer weddings? I love ’em, yes I do do do. My only other favourite thing is a destination wedding, lounging in the Sun, sand under your feet and drinking from breakfast till dawn ?, who can beat that? But home summer weddings are cheaper so let’s stick with this one for now ?. I hadn’t been to a wedding in a while as a guest, I am either photographing or planning behind the scenes so you can imagine my elation when I discovered I had two summer weddings to attend in 2017, I was over the moon.

I love weddings, they are so refreshing and they take your mind off the day to day hustle and bustle of life. You have the time to reflect on your own marriage and relationships, almost like a Catholic baptism ceremony where you renew your vows every time you attend the christening of an infant. Based on this I see weddings as a little honeymoon for the hubby and I, we absorb and renew vows in our minds, we have a drink or two or three or four, who is counting anyways ?, we dance and are like teenagers again so I ain’t gonna be mad if the kiddo is at home in his bed while mama and papa dance into the night. 

So my ritual when I receive an invitation looks a bit like this:
I scan the invition desperately looking for the part that says “KEEP YOUR DAMN KIDS AT HOME SO THEY DON’T WRECK MY WEDDING”, If I don’t see it immediately, I don’t panic, nope,  I move on to plan B

Call the bride and ask the suggestive question “Kids are completely banned from your wedding right?” Pinning my last hopes on a resounding “YES” so I can leave my bubba at home with a clear conscience.
In this case it did not happen! The bride called me to tell me “there is a play area for the kids at the reception” ?, who cares ?. Ok then killjoy, I will bring him then gosh! *rolls eyes to the extent that I lost my contacts in there*.

So now I knew I was taking my son I had to make some preparations that wouldn’t have been necessary if someone just remembered to tell the printers to emboss “No kids, only jellof” on every invite ?

1. Prepare all outfits and back up outfits the night before (don’t underestimate the power of time wasting kids insert into your morning of an important occassion)

2. Pack snacks. You  ever know when your next meal will come ? on that day so make sure you stock up on snacks, biscuits, crisps, fruit and carrot sticks, don’t forget all the drinks your toddler would need.

3. Did I say pack extra clothes? Especially when there is white involved, there is bound to be an accident that will spoil your day. Pack spares  and spares of those spares

4. Be ready to entertain the lil munchkins.  Restlessness in the church doesn’t mean they are not disciplined, it means they don’t understand what is going on so they are not interested. Be ready to take them outside for some fresh air. Make them do some star jumps as well to expend some of that extra energy ?

5. Involve them in the wedding. Point interesting things out to them like details on the bride’s dress, details on centre pieces and interesting outfits in the room, they will become more observant and perhaps less disruptive ?. I also make Jax talk to people sitting around him, kids, adults, whoever. Ipads and phones are a no no 

6. Lastly pack pyjamas to change them into for the journey home because they are going to fall asleep after a long day.
These are my tips and tricks for helping kids enjoy the day just as you do. I hope this helps somebody somewhere. 


About this outfit

This dress I spotted a while ago on Instagram and fell in love with it immediately. I am so proud to say this is by a progressive Nigerian designer DZYN. Statement sleeves have always been a trend I cherish and never have  sleeves made more of a statement than these. I got so many compliments that I felt like a princess.

Dress  by Abuja based designer DZYN here 

Shoes public desire here

Accessories by ByOpaleye here

Until next time buttercups